Life is really strange sometimes, I just started writing some meaningless stuff on my blog, people started reading, liking it and I suddenly found myself in a great catastrophic situation (“ I felt so “). That said, it had been a bit of doubtful question for me to figure out how, after that incident, I would ever write unself-consciously again. What would happen to the small and rarely visiting readers of my blog, my friends mostly?
Then, they started irritating me by frequently asking only one thing – “When would I get Married…?”
I wonder, how in the world does one go about answering this question that will satisfy those who suffered it’s pain…of being married. Then I found my blog as the best medium to answer publicly, to speak out my heart, to announce the mysteries and to ask for your votes on my opinion about not getting married. So, please don’t forget to write your valuable comments after reading this post.
They say – Marriages are made in Heaven! It may be. But I never knew more about this institutionalized companionship. I m terrified of it. I have no idea what marriage is. And frankly, I am not interested even to know. There is no greater risk than matrimony. But there is nothing happier than a happy marriage. Whatever.
I have my own share of worries, my own problems, and my own life. I can’t afford a partner - not economically, mind it. But I am like that only. I am sorry to confess that I possess a scant amount of honor in my youth, if at all any, and behaving in a careless and thoughtless manner is a bit of a specialty of mine. I am so irresponsible that I probably should not be allowed to choose my own clothes, my mobile, my bank, much less my own future, and so this carelessness, as you can imagine, restricts me from getting married. It is not just the wedding factor but I have always visualized every husband as a frustrated individual. And that enhances my resistance to getting married.
And unfortunately, nowadays, my marriage issue has been assuming almost the importance of Terrorism worldwide. Every 8 questions asked to me out of 10 are based on matrimony. And to top it all, I have been given million examples of happy couples, as if; they all resemble ‘Jodha-Akbar’ kind of. Family, Friends, Relatives – no one is left in this pool of askers.
Tie the knot, and get settled. (Does getting settled mean getting married only?)
It’s not I can’t swear for lifelong fidelity to my partner or I can’t share my finances with her. But it’s way more than that.
I know, destiny is intervening and is demanding marriage from me. But I have also learned something from life’s experiences how to be strict on your rules.
I believe, there is no choice more intensely personal, after all, than whom you choose to marry; that choice tells us, to a large extent, who you are. The person whom you choose to marry is perhaps the single most vivid representation of your own personality. And I don’t feel, I can choose good.
Well, it’s all well for me, I am a boy and it’s okay if I marry late. (The older a guy gets, the bigger his dating demand)
After all, it’s the question of our market value. Who in this world would like the transition from being called dude, bhaiya and then respectful uncle.
But who will explain the Moms…? She insists. I have heard many defeated young dudes telling : “Because my mom insists, I will have to get married soon”.
My story is bit different.
Vaibhav is married and living happily with cute and interesting Dipali. Bhavesh has just registered into newly married list. Sanyam, Bhavik, Prakash, Satish to name a few…they all have changed their status on FB and Orkut. Everyone has taken their risk according to their mental, physical and economical capacity to bear their better halves. And here I am, all alone, strictly holding my single status, only because I don’t know what I want, what I dream or rather what I live and frankly never have!
What will it take for me to realize that someone is the one? How much time still will I take to make that most important decision? How many questions still will I have to answer? When would I change my face book status?
When would I get married…?
